Genuine Happiness

"hap·py

ˈhapē/

adjective

adjective: happy; comparative adjective: happier; superlative adjective: happiest; suffix: -happy

1.

feeling or showing pleasure or contentment." (from Google)

 

"hap·pi·ness

ˈhapēnəs/

noun

noun: happiness; plural noun: happinesses

the state of being happy" (from Google)

 

I've considered myself a pretty happy person my whole life. I don't see why I wouldn't be. There are moments when I'm happier than others and there are moments when I try convincing myself and the crowd around me that I'm happy when I'm really not. We all seem to make our problems stand out from everything else that's in our life. That honestly sucks because there's so much more to life than just reminding yourself of what you're going through and making it seem like it's the only thing in the world that's happened to you. We often think that problems are all that we've got and fail to actually look past the problem and see all of the reasons in life why you should smile or be happy about.

 

There's always been a phrase that stood out to me for as long as I've heard it. Whether it was in a conversation with someone, in a book, a movie, etc. "Fake it 'til you make it." That seems odd. We surround ourselves with a society who will say fake isn't what you want, and one that'll say you're fake when all that you're doing is being a mature person. There will always be a person you won't get along with, but you'll have to deal with and treat nicely in order to get to what you want. It could be a teacher, a boss, a co-worker, it could be anyone. That's when you "fake it 'til you make it" but you don't fake it when it comes to your actual happiness.

 

I'm guilty of always stressing, worrying, and overthinking. It sucks because I make what's bringing me down into a straight one way road and my problems seems to be the only ones I see because they're going the wrong way and they're about to crash into me. I've noticed that I always aim for perfection. I never thought of myself as a perfectionist, but I really am and I walked into my 10th grade year thinking that I was going to have straight A's and nothing but straight A's and that I'd be a bad person if I didn't get straight A's. Well turns out I don't have straight A's. (reading this you probably think that I'm saying that with such a breeze like its nothing, but I'm still trying to accept it myself.) I work my butt off working on school work, doing my homework, studying, and going to tutoring sessions. I'm not going to give up on anything, but I'm also not going to let this keep getting in my head. I'm going to take control of this situation because only  I can fix my problems, and I can't let them break me. It's so hard to get to the top, but it's so easy to get crumpled. I'm learning to accept that I'm a bright student who's using her potential to the most, but I'm not the smartest person to walk the halls of my school. And I don't have to be. All that I actually have to be is myself, and be and do my best.

 

There's actually something that's much more important than grades, or boys. It's your life. There are billions of boys out there. There are tons of colleges, and tons of time for you to get your grade up (not really tons of time for you to get your grade up, but I'm trying to be as positive about this as I can.) But there's only one life. You only get to experience the chance (privilege) of living once. We take happiness for granted. What type of world would this be if there was no such thing as feeling happy? What if we were all immune to the emotion of happiness? That's not the world I'd want to live in. Don't let your problems pull you into a never ending black hole of misery. Just be happy that you woke up this morning. Because there are people who didn't. Be happy you're healthy because there's people in this world who aren't and that's all they wish for. Don't let your happiness revolve around a grade or any object. Your purpose in life isn't to make shoes or a purse the main focus of your life. It shouldn't be. As Eleanor Roosevelt said,  “Today is the oldest you've ever been, and the youngest you'll ever be again.” So live in the moment. Live and love every moment like it's your last.

 

I hope this post woke you up a bit, because I've been thinking about writing it for a good week. I just didn't know how to put it to words and into a blog post after I noticed that my happiness wasn't genuine. Remember to smile and laugh more, this time actually mean it. Make every moment count, and make your happiness genuine.

                                                                Much love,

                                                                              Daniela

                                                                                      Xoxo.

Time Management

  All day I've been thinking about todays post. After pondering it some more, it hit me. I was right in the middle of doing homework on my bed, just remembering today and looking back at everything. Then what to write about just suddenly came to me.  Today I was in one of my class periods, and my friend who sits next to me noticed that I always have labeled in my agenda days before "think about blog post/draft" and that on Wednesdays and Sundays I have "blog post." I think that I'm a very organized person, I'm all about having a plan and having everything in my agenda. She saw it, looked up at me and said "Aw, how do you have time for it? How do you manage to do it? Are there times when you don't do it because you don't have time?" So that led me to think about a time management post!  It's past back to school time, or at least for me it is. But time management is something that you can learn at any time and use it wisely.

• Have a schedule/routine. I get home from school, waste about an hour or so (I get out of school at 2:05, I start doing what I should be doing by 3:00-3:15) Usually I talk to my mom a bit, I help her out, I just sit and check social media. I do my homework early because I'm that type of person. If I don't do my homework early in the day and leave it for the night time, then later at night I won't put in 100% of my effort. You have to know yourself and be able to recognize the type of person that you are.

• It's all about adjusting. If I volunteer Mondays then I need to get home do the work that's due the next day, and the work that's due later on in the week, I'll slack off on, I do twice the work to make up for it on Tuesday. You've really got to adjust to your schedule. This goes for sports, clubs, and any extracurricular.

• Reward yourself. I do my work so early so I can relax for the rest of the night. I can watch Netflix, I can write a blog post, I can just waste time and not think about school.

• Have a good sleeping schedule. ALL or well maybe about 98% of us high school students have a horrid sleeping schedule. We're sleep deprived. Today I took a pre-test in one of my classes, I fell asleep after finishing it. I swear, those ten minutes were the best ten minutes I've had throughout the past three weeks that I've been in school. I'm usually in bed by 9:40, 10:30 tops. But then again keep in mind this has not been going on for a long time, this has only been for three weeks. I can honestly say that I don't fall asleep at that time, but I am in bed and I am relaxed and ready to go to sleep. (try reading a book to fall asleep or play some soft music)

 

  Is it hard? How do you do it? Yes, it is hard. Very hard. I don't know how I do it, I just try as hard as I can. Effort really goes a long way. Hard work always pays off, you might not see it immediately, but in the long run it will. Believe in yourself and everything will be possible.

 

                                    Thanks for stopping by and reading, I hope you enjoyed this post and got something out of it.

Much love,

                Daniela.